3 Philosophies to Help You Through a Divorce

Divorce can be a very stressful experience, but there are some ways you can keep a clear head and get through the process as efficiently as possible. The following are a few philosophies you may consider living by during your divorce, even when times are toughest:

• Focus on what you can control: It is understandable to get frustrated with your former spouse or the legal system in general. But ultimately, getting worked up about things that are out of your control will not help you. Be mindful of your own thoughts and actions. Set goals for what you wish to accomplish, and have a task list of things you need to do now. Remain focused on the present rather than worrying too much about the future.
• Some people don’t respond to reason: This is a big issue for people going through contentious divorces. It can be extremely frustrating to have a spouse who only sees his or her side of the story, or who is unable to resolve conflicts in a healthy manner. There are some cases in which you simply have to stop trying to talk to them. You can have an attorney to handle your negotiations for you if the lines of communication break down, so don’t feel like you have to get through to your spouse if that person simply will not listen.
• Act instead of reacting: It is always going to be tempting to retaliate when your spouse attempts to create drama. One of the hardest things to do is to avoid reacting and control yourself. Focus on yourself, the tasks you have at hand and what you can control. Be a positive actor instead of a negative reactor.

For more guidance and advice as you approach your divorce, speak with an experienced Long Island family law attorney at Bryan L. Salamone & Associates.