Choosing the Right Divorce Mediator
Mediation is often an ideal choice when working through a divorce, as it allows you to meet with your former partner and discuss key issues related to property division, child support, custody and alimony (if applicable). To that end, the choice of mediator could be the single most important decision you make during your divorce process.
As you go through the mediation, you will discuss a number of personal and sensitive topics that could become heated. Knowing this, you should have a mediator who has these specific qualities to guide you through the process:
- Trust. Nothing is more important in a mediator than trust. You must both trust that the mediator is working to help both of you to come out of this process as whole as possible. The mediator should be a good communicator, be completely honest and make you feel as comfortable as possible at all times.
- Experience in mediation. The mediator you choose should not only focus on mediation and dispute resolution, but should also have thorough training in those areas. A mediator’s job is far too important for someone who has simply taken a couple training courses. Look for a degree, certification and/or evidence of substantial experience.
- Reasonable cost. While you probably will not want to make your decision based on the lowest rate you find, you should look for someone who reasonably prices his or her services. Keep in mind that the entire divorce process is expensive. You will be responsible attorney’s fees, will be coming away from the divorce with significantly less household income and could end up being responsible for child support or alimony. If the mediator bills on an hourly basis, you need assurances he or she will use time wisely and efficiently.
- Other signs of experience. Has the mediator published any books or articles on mediation? Does she have a blog? Is he involved in professional networks? Do your background research before making your selection.
If you are interested in divorce mediation, get in touch with the respected Long Island family law attorneys at Bryan L. Salamone & Associates to learn more about your options.