Many Recently Divorced People Using Travel as a Way to Start Their New Life

Traveling after divorce

In her book, Brave-ish: One Breakup, Six Continents and Feeling Fearless After Fifty, writer Lisa Niver discusses how she responded to her divorce by identifying 50 different challenges she wanted to tackle as she entered a new phase of her life. Some of the accomplishments that made her feel fearless were skydiving and learning how to salsa dance. 

Several items on the list involved travel to locations around the world. Niver is not the only person who feels this way. Many newly single people go on trips for a wide range of reasons, such as:

  • Exploring places your ex never wanted to visit — Some of the journeys that Niver went on as part of her healing process were to Iceland, Ireland, Utah and the Galapagos Islands. Several of these destinations were linked to her childhood dreams and challenges. However, for married couples, the time and expense associated with a vacation usually mean that both spouses have a say in where to go. 

  • Traveling without emotional baggage — Even if you and your spouse agree upon a particular destination, there might not be much joy if all you’re doing is taking your relationship problems to a different location. Niver talks about her putting off her dream of seeing the Buddha statues at Borobudur temple in Indonesia, because it seemed incongruous to visit such a peaceful, historic site just to squabble over the same things that caused problems at home. 

  • Reconnecting with distant family and friends — Often, travel is about not just visiting beautiful or interesting places but also spending time with people you’ve missed. You might have been reluctant to take a trip to see friends or family members because you didn’t think your partner would enjoy themselves while you reminisced and caught up. Once you’re divorced, you can focus on what makes you happy rather than worrying about your spouse feeling like a third wheel. 

Not everyone will have the means or desire to go on exotic vacations to six continents after ending their marriage. Your version of post-divorce freedom might involve shorter excursions, concerts, museums or sports that you previously avoided because you thought your ex wouldn’t enjoy them. 

At Bryan L. Salamone & Associates, P.C. we focus on improving the lives of our clients from their first meeting with us. That is why our firm offers The Smarter Divorce, a step-by-step plan that gives spouses the chance to avoid needless legal battles and to concentrate on the good things to come. To discuss how we can help you gain the freedom you’ve been looking for while achieving favorable divorce terms, please call 1.631.479.3839 or contact us online.




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