Should I Separate or Get a Divorce?

One question frequently considered by couples who are trying to decide whether or not they should end their marriage is: should we get separated or should we begin the divorce process?

The answer largely depends on the circumstances of your relationship. If you have children together, for example, it might be more emotionally difficult for you to officially end the relationship through the divorce process than it would be if you did not have children. On the other hand, if your relationship is irretrievably broken, a separation could just be delaying the inevitable.

Our general advice on separation and divorce

The best way to answer this question is to consider what you hope to get out of a separation, and what you realistically think the result of separating will be. Do you see yourself repairing the relationship and getting back together? Be truly honest with yourself about this.

Unless you have a good reason to not get divorced and think you will both be able to work through whatever difficulties you face, you should consider getting a divorce rather than a legal separation. Divorce, while it can be painful, is ultimately freeing in that it allows you to move on with your life fully without being tied down to a failing relationship.

If you do not have children and have relatively few assets or debts, there are simplified divorce procedures you can go through to make the process as painless as possible. Be sure to check with your lawyer about these options.

Again, every relationship is different, and there is no such thing as “one size fits all” advice when it comes to choosing a separation or a divorce. You need to be honest with yourself about the state of your relationship and what you want heading forward.

For further tips and guidance on this important issue, meet with a skilled separation lawyer at Bryan L. Salamone & Associates.