Successful Divorce: The Art of Co-Parenting
For divorced parents (as with any parents), managing the children’s daily routine and long-term welfare poses an ongoing challenge. As a Long Island family law attorney, I see the sad impact that even well-meaning parents can have when the children are put in difficult or uncomfortable situations. And I see the remarkable difference it makes when both parents are on the same page, with their children’s needs at the forefront.
“Divorce in itself will not destroy your children. It is your reaction to the divorce that has the power to destroy their coping mechanisms,” advises Elinor Robin, Ph.D. in her e-zine article, “Divorce Doesn't Have to Destroy Your Kids...” In fact, that gem is just one of 50 tips the article provides for divorced and divorcing spouses. My personal favorites range from #1, “Call a truce with your ex…” to #46, “Divorce is not an event, it is a process. Allow yourself, your ex-spouse and your children at least two years for readjustment.”
The article also features great notes for:
- Navigating the perilous waters of being the non-custodial parent
- Addressing how to make your time together special without spoiling the youngsters
- Staying connected over the miles with the help of today’s technology
- Dealing with teens who would rather spend the weekend with their friends than with the source of their child support
For the best way to handle the transition from one parent’s house to the other, see #7 – “… if possible avoid the dreaded switch by structuring your time sharing so that weekends start Friday after school and end with school drop-off on Monday morning.” Brilliant!
Bryan L. Salamone & Associates, P.C. offers experienced and caring guidance on structuring a custody and visitation agreement that works for everyone – especially the kids.