The Most Common Divorce Myths
If you are preparing to go through a divorce, chances are you’ve heard a lot of misinformation about divorce statistics, how you’ll feel after a divorce and more.
Here are a few of the most common myths that you can ignore:
- Divorce is always harmful for children. While divorce certainly isn’t a piece of cake for anyone, “harmful” isn’t the word to use for how it affects children. There are going to be plenty of stressors during the divorce process for children and parents alike, but if both parents refrain from arguing in front of their children and badmouthing each other, and both do everything they can to continue to give their children a stable, peaceful and positive environment, then there is no reason to believe that children won’t continue to have a healthy and happy childhood.
- Divorce is failure. This is a line used to shame people who are going through divorces, and it couldn’t be farther from the truth. Instead, it should be seen as courageous—both parents agree that the best thing to do for themselves and for their children is to split rather than continuing to live in a potentially hostile environment. It is a mature, adult decision that is never made lightly. Marriages should be judged by their quality, not their length.
- Expensive weddings lead to divorce. American weddings have ballooned in cost over the past few decades, and the prevailing notion among many people has been that more expensive weddings increase the likelihood of divorce. However, recent studies indicate that there is no such correlation.
- Divorce is usually caused by _____. There isn’t any “usual cause” for divorce, because every divorce is different. “Irreconcilable differences” acts as a catch-all cause, but that could include any number of reasons. Your divorce can’t be categorized, and what’s right for other people in their divorces may not be applicable to you.
For accurate information and sound guidance on the divorce process, meet with a compassionate New York attorney at Bryan L. Salamone & Associates.