Things to Avoid After Your Divorce is Finalized

So you’ve made it through the exhausting, painful process of divorce. It has likely been months, or maybe even years in extreme cases, since you have been able to go through a day without having to worry about certain divorce-related tasks.

However, you cannot let up just because the divorce has been finalized. Many people make some significant mistakes while adjusting to their new lives post-divorce. The following are some of the most common issues:

• Expecting your former spouse to be reasonable: Simply put, you should not expect your former spouse to be reasonable if he or she has not been in the past. You must understand you cannot change anyone’s behavior but your own. Having unrealistic expectations of another person’s behavior may only lead to disappointment.
• Getting back together with a former partner: Although some divorced couples are able to reconcile several years after their breakup, doing this successfully is rare. Be very careful about approaching this, and make sure you are in a truly healthy place before even thinking about getting back together with your ex-spouse.
• Badmouthing your former spouse in public: In today’s digital world, social media can have its pitfalls, as it is an easy platform to speak poorly about others. This can have serious implications if you have children, as your former spouse could use anything you post against you.
• Avoiding counseling: Many people believe they don’t need therapy after a divorce, but it is highly recommended as a means of working through some of the issues and emotional trauma you have experienced. Don’t not be afraid or ashamed of seeking professional help during a difficult time in your life.

For the sound legal guidance you need when dissolving your marriage in Long Island, work with a skilled divorce lawyer at Bryan L. Salamone & Associates.