Tips to Help You Avoid a Toxic Divorce
While divorce is stressful and potentially traumatic, it does not have to be extremely contentious. With a little bit of effort from each party, the divorce process can go relatively smoothly and collaboratively, allowing you to avoid toxicity and drawn-out, personal legal battles.
Here are a few tips to help you avoid toxicity during the divorce process.
- Resist the urge to blame: Blaming your spouse or seeking revenge doesn’t really accomplish anything. Not only will it make the divorce process more difficult, but you’ll also likely find that any satisfaction it provides you is temporary and hollow. It is so easy to give in to negative emotions during the divorce process, but remember that taking the high road is ultimately best for everyone.
- Spend some time reflecting on your mistakes: What steps did you take that led to the divorce process? This period of self-reflection can be quite difficult, but ultimately it is an opportunity for growth and learning. A willingness to consider your own mistakes will also make it easier for you to compromise and collaborate during the divorce process.
- Choose attorneys with a background in mediation: If you want to avoid confrontation in your divorce, then your legal team should be focused on collaboration and not aggression. Look for attorneys with a history in settlements through mediation.
- Know what to shoot for in your settlement: It can be very tempting to try to get more than your fair share out of the divorce and to punish your spouse by dominating the discussions. However, an overly generous settlement could ultimately come back to haunt you. Focus on a settlement that’s in your best interest, yes, but also one that is fair. This will make it much more likely that you will avoid future court battles.
For more information about getting through the divorce process as smoothly and amicably as possible, contact an experienced Long Island divorce lawyer at Bryan L. Salamone & Associates.