Spouses naturally get nervous when their partner starts giving excessive time and attention to someone else. It might be a sign of infidelity or just an indication that a husband or wife no longer enjoys their marital relationship. Today, spouses don’t just have to worry about losing their partner to someone else. Increasingly, it’s a smartphone, rather than another man or woman, that is driving couples apart.
Many couples are now finding that digital detachment has become a significant issue in their relationship. Digital detachment occurs when one partner is so absorbed in their phone, computer or gaming console that they become emotionally disconnected from their spouse. There are several specific ways that devices prevent husbands and wives from relating to each other, such as:
- Constant checking of text messages, social media accounts or inboxes during conversations, meals and family events
- Spending hours playing video games, participating in online conversations or watching content on various digital platforms
- Canceling and avoiding in-person activities to spend more time on one’s phone
- Devoting undue thought and attention to virtual characters and online interactions
- Focusing more on posting photos and getting likes than enjoying the world around them
While technology offers convenience and entertainment, excessive use can create distance between partners, leading to feelings of neglect, loneliness and frustration. Over time, this can erode intimacy and emotional connection, two essential components of a healthy marriage.
You’re not alone if you’re feeling ignored or undervalued by a spouse who cannot look up from their phone to speak with you. In some cases, substantial effort is required to re-establish emotional intimacy. Couples therapy, the establishment of tech-free zones and scheduled time for non-digital activities might help you to reconnect with your spouse.
However, there are situations where digital detachment is symptomatic of a relationship that has run its course. If your husband or wife does not seem willing to make a meaningful change, you both might be happier by ending your marriage and moving forward. You don’t have to stand pat out of fear that a breakup will be messy and expensive.
At Bryan L. Salamone & Associates, P.C., we offer a simple divorce solution to Long Island clients who are looking to minimize the cost and aggravation associated with the New York marriage dissolution process. To discuss your situation with an experienced lawyer, please call 631-388-6009 or contact us online.