Divorces, and breakups between unmarried parents, typically stem from tension between the parties. When the relationship was marked by abuse, it is extremely important that child custody decisions reflect this fact and that parenting time terms are drafted in a way that protects young people. Even in cases where physical harm is not alleged, a parent could exhibit a pattern of behaviors that poses some threat to their son or daughter.
Sociologist Evan Stark popularized the term “coercive control,” which refers to conduct designed to dominate and restrict the autonomy, liberty and personhood of a current or former intimate partner. Behaviors in these relationships often include violence, intimidation, isolation and control, but can also manifest as emotional, psychological, sexual, physical and economic abuse. Threats, stalking and the use of children to exert dominance are also common tactics in coercive control dynamics.
There are many relationships where serious disagreements over issues such as financial issues or a partner’s whereabouts exist. Not every one is an example of coercive control. What distinguishes coercive control is a deliberate strategy aimed at achieving total domination over the victim. When this occurs, victims may feel trapped, isolated and stripped of their independence, leading to long-term trauma. Moreover, they might lack the will to assert themselves during discussions relating to child custody terms.
Victimized parents might lose custody of their children, exposing them to coercive controlling parenting or prolonged post-separation abuse. This continued exposure can have devastating consequences for children, including emotional distress, developmental challenges and long-term psychological harm.
Understanding and addressing coercive control is critical in family law cases. Courts and legal professionals must be equipped to recognize the signs of coercive control and its impact on victims and children. Proper assessments and informed legal strategies can help protect victims and ensure that children are not subjected to dangerous behavior.
At Bryan L. Salamone & Associates, P.C., our Long Island family law attorneys are committed to advocating for victims of coercive control and ensuring their voices are heard. If you have been subjected to coercive control, contact us today to learn how we counter this type of mistreatment and advocate for a child custody framework that protects you and your children. To make an appointment, please call 631-388-6009 or contact us online.