How to Best Introduce a New Partner to Your Kids

It’s generally advisable to take some time to yourself after a divorce before you begin seriously dating again. But if you do meet someone you become serious about romantically, you might be wondering how best to introduce this person to your kids.

This can be a very delicate situation. Below are some general rules to follow whenever introducing a new romantic partner to your children:

• Make sure the timing is right: Children need some time to adjust to the divorce of their parents. It can take months or a couple years for them to fully get over the anger or sadness they experience. If you try to introduce a new partner too soon, it could compromise your children’s ability to adjust to their new family situation in a healthy way.
• Be empathetic: Understand, for example, that your kids might see your new partner as being a rival for your affection. Emphasize that just because you have a new partner does not mean your children are suddenly out of the picture. On the contrary, you should make sure your kids know they are the most important people in your life. Give them plenty of reassurance that they will always come first.
• Ask yourself if your partner is right for your family: Just because you have great chemistry with someone does not mean he or she is suited to step into your family and suddenly become a parent-like figure to your children.
• Work your children into planning the meeting: If you believe you are getting close to the point of introducing your partner to your children, you might consider working your kids into the planning of the first meeting. Getting them involved can make them more receptive to meeting this new person and can ensure a more positive first experience.

For the guidance and advice you need before, during and after a divorce, consult a skilled Long Island family law attorney with Bryan L. Salamone & Associates.