Minimizing the Effects of Divorce on Your Children
Divorce is emotionally devastating for all parties involved, but especially children. However, you can minimize the pain divorce causes your family by doing the following:
- Cooperate for the sake of your children. Your partnership as a married couple may have ended, but your partnership as parents who love your children must remain. Show your children they are your top priority by putting past resentments aside and cooperating with your ex-spouse.
- Never let money interfere with parenting. Never take your frustration over financial issues with your ex-spouse out on your children.
- Never badmouth your ex-spouse in front of your children. Your issues with your ex-spouse should be yours alone. You should let your children learn to love each parent equally. If you badmouth your ex-spouse, you force your children to choose sides and this can make them feel uncomfortable and conflicted.
- Respect the privacy of your ex-spouse. You should never use your children as spies to obtain information on what your ex-spouse is doing.
- Seek family counseling. You should look into divorce and family counseling programs. Sometimes children appear to fine when really they are deeply upset and need help opening up.
- Visitation from the noncustodial parent. Children should always receive constant love and support from both parents. If you are the noncustodial parent, work with your ex-spouse to create a visitation schedule that allows you to spend time with your children.
A knowledgeable attorney can guide you throughout the divorce process and protect your best interests.