Telltale Signs that it Might Be Time for a Divorce

While some spouses decide to seek a divorce right after a dramatic confrontation, usually husbands and wives gradually reach the conclusion that they will be happier if their marriage ends. Often, people spend years going through the motions because they don’t want to take the first step or hope against hope that their relationship will be miraculously rejuvenated. Miracles rarely happen though, and some experts advise that if you’re looking to make a positive change in your life, it might be time to think seriously about divorce. 

For example, Robyn D’Angelo, a marriage and family therapist who devotes her professional life to keeping couples together, also knows the signs that indicate spouses would be better off apart, such as:

• The arguments have stopped — Marital disagreements might not be pleasant, but is natural for two individuals to argue about certain issues, even after decades of wedded bliss. If spouses no longer engage in disputes, it could mean that they’ve given up on improving the relationship.
• More passion for social media than their partner — Many people maintain healthy marriages while spending a considerable amount of time on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok and other social media platforms. However, these outlets are often used as a replacement for the companionship you should receive from your partner. Even if someone is not actively looking to start an affair online, it’s troubling when they want to check their phone first thing in the morning or to share important news with their Facebook friends before their spouse. 
• Hiding certain details — In a marriage that’s working, the spouses are a team. a husband or wife who opens a bank account without their telling their partner or who neglects to mention a major event at work could be indicating that the union has broken down. 
• The focus is on something else — Raising children, succeeding at work, taking care of an elderly loved one and engaging in other important pursuits require time and attention. But they should not prevent spouses from focusing on the health of their marriage. When you can’t talk about your relationship or find that every conversation drifts to another subject, it might be time for a change.

Some spouses stay in a relationship that isn’t working because they fear a difficult divorce process. This should not prevent you from reaching out to an experienced divorce lawyer. Bryan L. Salamone & Associates, P.C. offers clients throughout Long Island a simple divorce solution that almost always can reduce the rancor and cost that some people associate with the New York marriage dissolution process. To learn how we can help you, please call 1.631.479.3839 or contact us online.