Why You Need to Prepare Before Filing for Divorce
Even though you may have set your mind unchangeably on divorcing your spouse, rushing to file papers could hurt you in the long run. If you try to speed through the process to just get it over with, you may find yourself with poor outcomes that affect your life and the lives of your children for years to come. Before running to court, take the time to prepare thoughtfully and meticulously.
One of the main reasons you need to prepare before pursuing a divorce is to prevent yourself from making decisions motivated by emotions rather than practicality. As hurtful and stressful as a divorce may be, these feelings fade over time. You want to be able to leave your marriage with the financial resources you need and also to maintain healthy relationships with those most important to you, like your children.
Experts on divorce planning recommend that people take the following steps before going to court:
- Understand your finances — The expenses of living alone, or living alone with children, can be very different than those of living with a spouse. Thoroughly review your personal finances, including marital assets and debts. If you don’t usually view the family bills, it is time to take a look. Speaking to a financial planner can be helpful.
- Know your children’s needs — In most cases, parents share custody of children after a divorce. When you enter custody negotiations, it will be important to decide what potential arrangements you believe to be in the best interest of the children, including where they will live and attend school. Being in touch with your children’s needs and concerns can also help you maintain a considerate relationship with the co-parent spouse.
- See a therapist — Whether a divorce is amicable or contentious, grieving the loss of the marriage is natural. A therapist can help you work through what you are feeling and get to the core of what you need to improve your psychological state of health.
Consulting with a knowledgeable divorce attorney can help you develop well-defined expectations for the future you want for yourself and your family. This will make you better able to engage in productive conversations with your spouse, which in turn can make the divorce process easier. You may also find it useful to pursue mediation or a collaborative divorce to resolve contested issues.
The lawyers at Bryan L. Salamone & Associates, P.C., in Melville, New York have vast experience helping clients on Long Island to achieve desirable outcomes to divorce. To schedule your free initial consultation with a member of our team, call 1.631.479.3839 or contact us online.